Why It’s So Important to Actually Get Along With Your Wedding Photographer and Videographer
And why I decline bookings if the vibe isn’t right.
If there’s one thing couples forget when booking a photographer or videographer, it’s this: we’re with you more than half the people on your wedding day.
We’re there for the nerves, the tears, the “oh my god we need to fix this button,” the champagne chaos, the dancefloor carnage — all of it.
And if you don’t vibe with the person documenting your whole day?
Trust me, it shows.
As an alternative London wedding photographer and videographer I work with couples who want real moments, unposed energy and photos that actually feel like them. And the foundation of that? Connection.
Why the vibe matters more than the pose
When you genuinely get along with your photographer or videographer, everything shifts.
You relax more easily.
You laugh more freely.
You stop performing for the camera.
You start being yourselves.
And that’s when the good stuff happens.
The scrunch-nose laughter. The quiet glances. The soft moments no one else notices. The wild, blurry dancefloor bits that make your gallery feel alive.
Your photographer/videographer isn’t just a supplier — they’re part of the experience
You don’t just want someone who “takes nice photos/videos”.
You want someone who:
- Knows how to make you feel comfortable
- Understands different skin tones (non-negotiable)
- Gets alternative, fun, untraditional weddings
- Hypes you up without making things cringey
- Knows how to disappear into the background when needed
- Feels like a friend you actually like being around
Because when you vibe with your photographer or videographer, your wedding day feels easier, lighter and way more fun.
Choosing the right person changes everything
If you want photos and videos that reflect your personality, your connection and who you are as a couple — choose someone whose energy matches yours. Someone who listens, sees you, and gives you space to be yourselves.
Your wedding is too important for awkwardness.
Choose someone who feels like the right fit.
(And if that sounds like me… you know where I am.)
Looking for a wedding photographer or videographer who gets it? Get in touch
